When I see a young christian couple engaged to be married after dating one month, I am like "Girl, What? Why?" The answer is usually along the lines of "the bible commands that we marry quickly, instead of living in sin." And cool. I can dig it. I agree. However, are you and your mate not able to work together to preserve your love pocket and Chick-O-Stick for at least a year? Girl, how are you guys going to handle life together? I am all for #TeamNoBedBeforeWed. I believe wholeheartedly that this is what God commands for our well-being. And I need a man who is on board with this. Spending the rest of your life with someone who is helping you to make every decision is a big deal. If we can't stay focused enough to abstain together for a period of time longer than a month, then we ain't going to make this thing called life together. I'm not saying don't get married when you are ready. I am saying take time to get to know the person. Court each other. Learn what makes the person tick. How can you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone and you haven't seen how pissed they can get? Because if the first time I see you pissed is after we get married, you may scare me off, bro. On the flip side of that though, if I see a whole range of emotions from you within just a few months of dating, you may be crazy. You gotta decide which sin is worse? Marrying and divorcing quickly or premarital sex? I guess that is up to the person. Let's not turn marriage into something you do to solve a problem. Let's use it for what it is intended. The sacred joining of a man and woman together for a lifetime. That means when you get tired, you press on. When you can't stand the person, you press on. When you don't want to love the person anymore, you press on. That takes a lot of commitment to do. I'm not sure if that type of commitment can be solidified after just a month or so of dating in today's world.
Let me know what you guys think. Do you think a month of dating is enough to know if you should marry?